Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Lock it Up! The Joy's of Male Chastity

 When you first hear the word "chastity", you may think of a few things... a virtuous woman, a virginal woman... maybe even a medieval device used for woman to keep them "untouched" or "unspoilt". Regardless the idea of chastity or being chaste is something that is most frequently used in regards to a quality that is ideal for females to possess. I personally have never heard people talking about the value of a man being in direct realtion to his virginal behavior, unless it was to humiliate or degrade him. I guess somewhere that is a thing but for the sake of this post, chastity is traditionally something forced upon women, ultimately by men, so they will be "worthy of marriage". The women's chastity belt was just that, a belt with a metal piece that ran from the back of the waist down to between the legs and back up to the front of the waist. The area that is directly over the vulva, often had sharp bits to prevent even the slightest chance of penetration, allowing only waste out of the females body. Wearing it would often cause sores on the skin from prolonged exposure or chaffing, as the metal was quite rigid and prone to digging into the soft flesh of a womans body, not to mention potential sepsis from being unable to wash properly. 


    Doesn't sound like much fun to me and since it was hardly ever consensual, but rather forced, I am not a fan. I am also not a masochist or into someone else controlling my pleasure, so its definitely a 0/10 on the scale of interest. Of course you can find similar types chastity belts to purchase, on kinky websites and people use them for consensual play. Sure whatever gets you off, amirite? Now lets talk about something that is much more subversive, often taboo, and most often a topic of ridicule. A chaste male, a male who has been denied the ability to not only touch himself, but for all intents and purposes, can not even get a full erection, nor remain erect while in a male chastity device. The very idea is ripe with feelings that engender male infertility, loss of his verility, beta male, cuckold... It is a humiliation for a male to be denied access to his sex, but it's a virtue for a woman to be denied access to her sex. This is why male chastity is in my opinion much more subversive and taboo, and satisfying! We've already been there, done that with women. 

    A male chastity device is many things, but most importantly it is a way to reprogram man's mind to take his focus of of his dick and on to other more valuable pursuits. Now I believe masturbation is perfectly healthy, and theres nothing wrong with a little self pleasure. That being said, the average male, from what I have learned as a professional dominatrix, is masturbating several times a day and orgasming in minutes from a grip that is tighter than any vagina will ever be. So it is not uncommon that most of these chronic masturbators aren't lasting long enough to please a woman, let alone thinking about the reality that sex is mutual.  Then they wonder why they cannot keep a girlfriend when they get one, or ever get a call back from a woman once they have sex with them for the first time. 

    Locking a male into a chastity device creates a real intense disconnection from the part of their body they connect with the most. They cannot touch it, they cannot stroke it, they can barely get hard and if they do it will not get fully erect as the cage is designed to not allow that type of growth. As a result, males start realizing they have to do other things to please themselves and the partner in their life. They realize ther is more to life then blindly masturbating for every and any reason. Usually, this leads them to focus more on their partners pleasure and often will have real conversations about how they can please their keyholder. Because, if the keyholder isn't pleased, then they will not be granted permission for release, not only release from the cage but also possibly release in the form of an orgasm.

    Male chastity cages are designed differently than female chastity belts, mainly because of the shape of genitals differ as well as the placement on the body. It is imperative that males are measured before purchasing the device, because the ring that slides over the cock and balls that keeps the larger front piece of the device on needs to be exact. Too big and it will not stay secure. Too small and it will cut of circulation and that will cause damage. Even if the desire for locking your partner in chastity is to cause atrophy, you still want to make sure the base ring fits properly. There are also a variety of cock cages, including but not limited to; stainless steel and thicker varieties of sturdy plastic. I tend to prefer stainless steel, as they are much more resilient and I have had the plastic cages shatter/break. Not really the outcome you want, especially while your sub is wearing it. It is important to rememebr that at least once a day they will need to be let out for a supervised wash and promptly returned to the cage. Hygiene is still very important, even in chastity.

    My favorite part of keeping a male in chastity is watching their ego magically disappear... They no longer can assert their masculinity vis a vis constant ejaculation. They know that they no longer have control of their favorite toy, and as I mentioned before, know they must please their Mistress in order to be granted release. It is such a mind fuck for them to experience what it is like to be chaste, for their cock to be inaccessable, for them to rely on someone else to give them permission to pleasure. It is during lock up that you can start refocusing their mind and teach them how to please you. Release isn't guaranteed or mandatory. Therefore, they will learn to focus on Mistress whether or not there is potential for release. The things you can train them to do for you, while they're locked up are endless. It really is up to Mistress to decide what she wants from her chaste sub, and they will soon learn that it is better to follow directions, ask permission, trust Mistress's judgment, and focus on her pleasure than forget the position they are in. 

    Some of my favorite things to train my chastity subs are; how to provide a proper foot massage, the way I like things cleaned and arranged in the house, the importance of checking in, making sure I am pleased in the moment and do not need anything, how to perceive My next move so they can be ready and waiting. I love teasing them endlessly while they are locked up, depending on what their weakness is, because then you get to watch their cock, no matter how big or small, absolutely struggle to get out of their cage. They will start dripping precum, which you can force them to eat... you can rub your feet over their locked cock, and watch as their faces crinkle up in horror... you can shove their face in your sweat soaked yoga pants. It truly is limitless, the amount of creative and fun things you can do to a man while he is locked up and being told no. Because lets face it, men have a hard time hearing no, and they all really need to accept that they should not and will not always get what they want.

Saturday, September 12, 2020

My 40th Birthday is One Month Away

 I will be turning 40 this October 13th and I am so freaking excited for it! I can’t wait for everything coming on this solar return as I have a lot of pots on the fire at this moment and some of them are ready to burst!

As of right now there are really only two things I would like and that is this pair of bespoke Fernando Berlin crotch high boots.


And secondly I would like to finally take the silver smith classes I have been dreaming of taking for some time.


It will be approx $1000 for both things and I fully plan on doing these things regardless of anything.

I am extending this opportunity for generous slaves to contribute to My birthday happiness because I fucking deserve it, and I know how much you ache to give in to My desires

All My payment links are on My profile and also if someone is especially generous in regards to the boots, I will reward you with my very first pair of leather stiletto thigh high boots. 

Friday, September 4, 2020

Scent Fetish: What's it All About?

      Scent Fetish, or Olfactophilia, is sexual arousal caused by scents. While this can be any scent, it is most often body parts like, armpits, genitals, feet, sweat, etc. but for some it is the more intense smells, such as bodily wastes. Those who consider themselves scent fetishists, love the smell of who they're with, or no one in particular, to the point that it becomes a craving, a need that cannot be denied or ignored. There are many ways to explore this fetish safely, and in all reality, is a fairly benign fetish when it is tended to. Many tend to be severely turned on by used panties or socks, and any other type of garment that can collect even the faintest of smells. Thats why so many sex workers tend to sell their used panties, socks, shoes, etc. because the requests are always pouring in. 

    Some of us cannot even fathom how someone would enjoy the scent of body odor, but I challenge you to start with taking notice of how your body smells at different times and allow yourself to explore the various scents that waft from your body. It may feel a little weird at first, but thats okay, just go with it and do not judge how you smell. Humans are not necessarily meant to smell like roses and the societal belief that we need to be as scentless as possible, or alternatively covered up by heavy scented perfumes and lotions, does more harm than good. It can be harmful to body image and self worth because too many people believe something is wrong with them if they smell at all, which is simply not the case. Not to mention many scented body products contain harmful chemicals that can possibly cause  health problems.

    Simply put, our natural scent contains pheromones which are a secondary sex characteristic, and an excellent subconscious indicator of who we are attracted to, mostly for biological reasons, but clearly, that doesn't have to be the reason we stay interested in the person, or the fetish. For us to get a clear sense of the way our pheromones, or someone elses's, drive our pleasure response we simply need to allow our natural scent to be the dominant scent. This isnt saying we need to stink horribly, but it's also not saying we can't do that if the desired outcome is to overwhelm. For some scent fetishists, the stinkier the better!

    In my experience, the subs I have interacted with who have this fetish, prefer heavier scents and like to book sessions after I have completed a vigourous workout or have worn the same clothing item days in a row. I have definitely worn the same socks and/or panties for days in a row just to get a nice dense smell coming off of the item in order to indulge the sub and use their desire to be overpowered by the smell of their dominant. I remember when I first had a scent fetishist in my personal life, and was really surprised with how much they craved to smell me and would beg me to never wear deodorant, or to forgo bathing for a day or two so my scent could really percolate. I was reluctant at first, but after watching the euphoria they experienced huffing me, I felt oddly empowered. 

    There is something so taboo about going against societys prescribed protocol of being scentless or heavily perfumed, constantly bathed to the point of developing germ phobias, that it becomes arousing to know many people prefer the natural scent to manufactured cosmetic fragrances. It makes sense if you think about it, the need to civilize humanity starts with the removal of their base desires and animalistic nature, which in reality and in essence is ultimately the disconnecting of the normal bodily processes. Many processes which produce scents are taboo or considered unclean in many patriarchal religions, causing us to believe such things as "cleanliness is next to godliness". If we believe our human bodies are wrong for smelling then we will do everything possible to disconnect from our animalistic response to pheromones. 

    Understanding these taboos can absolutely help to create a space for scent worship and often leads to erotic humilaition play and psychological domination. Often when I am allowing a submissive to partake in my scent, I love to tease them about their addiction to me and the way I smell. I tell them things like, "you're so weak for my scent",  "my scent enslaves every part of your being, and there's nothing you can do to fight it", "you're such a nasty little scent piggy", and my favorite for when one is worshiping my scent soaked armpits is to tell them, "make sure you do an excellent job of licking up every drop of sweat, you need to lick my armpits clean. Do you feel me inside of you? I am in you now, dominating you, my scent owns you." The response from the sub is more than enough to enjoy the experience because you feel so powerful watching someone worship the very thing that used to cause you anxiety, or fear of being not normal, etc.

    While I am in no way saying do not ever wash again, as that could potentially cause bacterial overgrowth, I am saying to experiment with this taboo fetish, if you haven't. At the very least, take some time to honor the natural scent your body makes knowing that someone out there would be extremely atracted to you, and completely paralyzed by your chemisty. You never know, you may develop a new fetish.